Sometimes guys get nervous about "how to be romantic." We try to cover it up and those of us that are "slick" do a good job of covering it up. But even the most suave and romantic guy still gets nervous about exactly how to show romance to a girl that he really wants to sweep off her feet. Maybe because each gender has its own langauge and while girls seem to be born with romantic thoughts, guys have to learn them.
But take heart because you can learn how to know the perfect words to say to the perfect girl in those moments of sweetness and romance. And the fact that you are already thinking about learning how to be a better sweetheart for your sweetheart means you are going to be ahead of the game when the time comes.
How often have you been watching some romantic movie with your girl and the handsome devil on the screen comes up with the perfect words to say that turns his girl into a love making machine? We are actually surrounded by romantic thoughts in the movies, on TV, in the songs we listen to and on the greeting cards we buy for Valentines Day or for birthdays. So is it a good idea to just memorize some romantic sayings and have your list on three by five cards ready to use when you want the date to make that transition from fun and light socializing to true romance and passion?
Well, there is no harm in doing a little homework. After all, if you don't walk around all day thinking lines that would fit in a romantic song, don't be too hard on yourself. Most guys need to shift gears to think of how to express the feelings we have inside for the girls we adore. And reading romantic poems and collecting your favorite lines will give you ideas on how to empress those thoughts.
But there is a "trick" to how to say just the right thing to your girl. It has to be natural and it has to be from your heart. Don't just show up at the door of your next date, produce your three by five card and read the refrain from the last song you saw bring tears to her eyes. That would be awkward and, well, phony. And being phony is actually quite a bit worse than not saying anything romantic at all.
So the clue its time to say something romantic comes when those feelings come up inside you for her during the date. By putting your mind in a romantic mood like your heart is in, you can just put in words the feelings you have very naturally in your own words, not somebody else's words. Don't worry. If it isn't all flowery and sound like something from a movie, she will know it's from your heart and she will absolutely love it.
Girls have a natural feeling for when you are being real with them and when you are being phony. So by starting from your genuine feelings and letting them flow out in expressions of affection, admiration and romance, you will come up with the "right" thing to say and say it at the exactly right time. It's like using "the force" from Star Wars. You will know how to do it right if you follow that inner voice.
Now its gong to take some presence of mind when you know the time is right and you must muster the courage to let that love out from inside you. For girls romance is about love and sweetness but many times it takes a real man with some real guts to tell her how you feel. But think how many times the thought was in your head like "I never want this date to end." You know it has been here. But you cover it up because guys are just as good at hiding our feelings as girls are about expressing theirs. So the transition you must make is not to push down that romantic thought but to build on it and then finally let it out.
Maybe it will be that next time you and she are sharing an intimate moment and you feel all her affection coming your way that you want to stay in that moment forever. Don't let that moment pass but somehow find the path between the feeling inside and your mouth. But when the words come out and you experience the explosion of loving from your girl, you may never want to stop this flow of romantic words you can give to your sweetheart.
Now you know the secret that the "lover boys" know that instead of imitating other romantic people, you just turn your eyes inward and discover the romantic guy in you. He is already there. You just have kept him from saying anything to your girl. But by letting that part of you out and letting your lover know your real feelings, you will go from being nervous and clumsy at loving talk to being very good at it indeed.
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