Nothing can be more thrilling than a spectacular kiss when shared between two people who are attracted to each other. Inversely, nothing can be more disappointing than a lackluster kiss from someone that you are attracted to.
You know the feeling. Everything is going great. You have finally found someone that you enjoy spending time with that you think about all the time. As things progress you wonder when it's going to happen. You think about what it's going to be like to finally kiss them for the first time…
and then when the perfect moment comes along and your entire body screams for sweet relief from the agony of waiting for that first kiss you are met with such profound disappointment that you wonder if they even like you at all!
The truth is that sadly enough, not everyone knows how to kiss. Some people actually have no idea that they have absolutely no kissing skills, which is even more tragic. But what can you do about it? Fortunately, even the most mediocre and pathetic kisser can be taught how to kiss with proficiency and zest!
But how do you teach someone to kiss? Well, if you have found that special someone and they just don't know how to kiss probably the best approach would be to tell them straight up that you want to teach them how to kiss. Explain to them that kissing is just really important to you and that you really like to kiss and you want to practice kissing with them often and repeatedly.
Chances are you won't have much of a problem getting your partner to agree to regularly scheduled make-out sessions, especially if you have some skills in the kissing department.
So what do you actually do to teach someone to become a great kisser? Simply put, spend time kissing and explaining to them how kissing typically progresses. Here are a few tips and some ideas on how to dissect a kiss:
The Approach – Although there are variations on the approach when a couple begins to kiss, many times a slight hesitation or lingering just before your lips meet can create tension and wanting in your partner. Looking into their eyes as you move in for that kiss can speak volumes and enhance the passion between the two of you.
Intensity Building – Yes, there are times when the passion between you might be so intense that deep kissing might commence right off the bat but typically kissing begins with a few teasing kisses as the intensity and passion builds. Sure, there are times when everyone likes to be just pinned up against the wall and kissed deeply, but the time has to be right. If the timing is wrong you could easily get slapped across the face. But a good beginners rule would be to start with small kisses to your partner's upper or lower lips with your mouth half open. Don't pull away after each kiss but stay close as you slowly kiss, allowing the passion and desire to build.
Open Mouth Kisses – When kissing, how wide you can open your mouth or how far into your partners mouth you can stick your tongue is not the goal. You are not trying to devour your partner nor are you trying to tickle their tonsils. Yes, there are times when the intensity and passion between the two of you may build and you both find yourself swept up in how hard, deep and wide you can kiss but allow the situation to dictate this stuff and don't think "ok, here's the part where I show them how wide I can open my mouth and how long my tongue is". This is poor form and will typically lead to no more kissing.
With a little bit of patience and a lot of practice you can turn the worst kisser into at least a tolerable kisser in no time. Of course, the best part of this whole equation is that you will be teaching your partner a skill that both of you will enjoy in the long run!
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