After your boyfriend has broken up with you, whether you get him back or not will depend almost entirely on the actions you take. The problem will be that you will act without thinking and that can push him farther away. If that is what you have been doing, you should stop and take some time to think. You have to take the right actions or you will lose him for good.
The first action you should take is to sit down and make a list of what you think you should do to get your ex back and then do just the opposite. Why would you do something like that? Because the list you make will probably be the same things your ex boyfriend expects you to do. But to get a positive reaction out of him, you have to do what he does not expect you to do.
On your list of how to get your ex boyfriend back, you will have such things as tell him you love him, tell him how much you need him and you can't live without him. By doing these things you might as well tell him to go live his life without you. Have fun and when he wants you again, you will be waiting. If you follow your list, you will lose your man for good.
To get your ex boyfriend back, you have to make him desperate. The only way he will become desperate is by thinking you don't want him anymore. Add to that seeing you slipping away and being in the arm's of another man and you will have an ex boyfriend that will be desperate to get you back. But how can you do that if he broke up with you?
You can start by using the no contact rule. This rule is not easy to follow, but it is the best action you can take to make your ex boyfriend desperate. You must stop having any contact with your ex lover for at least a month. Stay busy with you family and do things that interest you. Taking some night classes to improve you job skills might appeal to you.
Another way to stay busy and at the same time regaining the feeling of being needed is doing volunteer work. Helping others less fortunate will make your problems seem less important. At the same time you will be using psychology to bring your ex boyfriend back. When he sees you moving on without him, he will begin to miss you and realize he might lose you for good.
By taking actions your ex boyfriend was not expecting you to take, you have made him see what a large part you have played in his life. Feeling he could be losing that part of his life will make him become desperate to have you back.
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