Ground Rules to Live by When Taking a Marriage Break After Cheating

There are a few ground rules you need to live by when you take a marriage break after cheating. It's not an easy decision to take a break from marriage. In fact, it's one of the strongest statements that can be made that says your marriage is in deep trouble.

Now, that doesn't mean that YOU can't work together with your wife to save your marriage. It just means that there are serious problems that MUST be solved in order to save it. Here are a few ground rules you need to follow if you've cheated with your wife and are now taking a break from your marriage to sort things out.

1)   Don't date other people. Even if your wife says it is perfectly fine with her if you do, DON'T! It isn't FINE with her. The fact that you were seeing someone else is part of the reason you're taking this marriage break in the first place. If you want to make your marriage work this is one trap you shouldn't fall into.

2)   Don't take your situation too lightly. This is a serious situation and your marriage can end as a result. Taking a break from marriage is not something that should ever be taken lightly. It isn't party time, playboy time, or even time to enjoy life without the responsibilities of marriage.

3)   You're still a father to your children. This break from your responsibilities as a husband does not absolve you of your responsibilities as dear old dad. As difficult and confusing as this time is for you, it is doubly difficult and confusing for your children. Do your absolute best to keep their welfare and happiness in the front of your mind during this trying time.

4)   Set goals for the breaks and time limits for achieving those goals. Don't let the break go on indefinitely or aimlessly. That is the worst thing you could possibly do at a time like this. You need specific goals and a specific timeframe for accomplishing them.

5)   Communicate regularly during your break from marriage. You may be taking a break from the day to day grind of marriage but this a time when you're supposed to be working out your problems. That can't be done if you aren't communicating at all. Set weekly "appointments" to get together on neutral ground and discuss how things are going, what you've accomplished, and what you've discovered.