Ten Steps For Single Men

So now you're single and feel lost in a cold, lonely world. Trust us, though things seem rough now, you will adjust. Here is a list of ten steps to single happiness that we have composed:

Step 1. Accept what you're feeling now. If you are grieving, then that is what you need to do. Above all, don't isolate- talk to as many friends as you can about what you're going through. It doesn't matter if some friends become impatient with you. We all need to talk a lot at various stages of our lives.

Step 2. Know, at least in the back of your mind, that you will get over this and someday meet someone else. This may take a long time. Some people describe losing a relationship as feeling as if they 'lost an arm.' No matter what you feel now though, be optimistic.

Step 3. You don't have to date if you don't want to. That could easily backfire. Let romance come naturally.

Step 4. Do go out- a lot! The more you are around people, the more you will be out of your own self and your own problems.

Step 5. Join clubs and take up new hobbies. Meet new people. You now have more free time and freedom in general. Use it!

Step 6. Volunteer in some form, formal or informal. Help people in other words. It will increase your self-esteem and prevent you from feeling worthless.

Step 7. Joke a lot, watch comedies, hang out with 'goofy' friends. Research shows that laughter is indeed wonderful medicine. It makes living lighter, cheers the gloomy heart, and is good for you physically as well.

Step 8. Avoid old haunts where you and your significant other used to hang out. Don't avoid mutual acquaintances, but you may want to cool off your socializing with old mutual friends for a while. Above all, don't indulge yourself into self-pity.

Step 9. In your own way, according to your own faith, jump into a spiritual regime. Sincerely wish the best for the partner that is no longer a part of your life. Make a higher power the center of your life.

Step 10. Avoid alcohol and drugs. Needless to say, it can be very tempting to numb your feelings through substance abuse. This could have very serious consequences for your life and must be avoided at all costs. If you are any way doubtful about your ability to control your drinking then abstinence, possibly through an organization like AA, may be the only answer.

It is hard to forget that we are not alone. But truly, we are not.