If you are thinking about winning your ex boyfriend back, then there are two possible causes of the breakup: you cause the problem or another girl stole your boyfriend. Either way, the first scenario is no better than the second. Yes, you might find no competitor, but remember that he sees you differently now due your previous mistakes.
Here is what you need to do to get him back:
Do not use "jealousy" as a mean to get his attention
Several girls think that they are able to have another man to pretend to be their new boyfriend and make their ex boyfriend jealous. Well, this is a mistake. Even if he is jealous, his man's pride won't allow him to admit it. You may even get the complete opposite result: he gets a new girlfriend immediately to show you that he is okay without you as you are "fine" without him.
Give him time to rething his decision and assess his current circumstance
Guys always think more with logic than emotion. Let him look at the situation after the breakup by himself. Let him re-analyze his choice to breakup with you. Simply being without you for some time will give him a specific experience where he must decide something important: is it better now being without you? Or is it worse?
Identify the real issue and put an effort to resolve it
Having him back while the problem is still lurking won't be good for both of you. Should the issue is you, you need to discover it and try to fix it. What are the problems? Is it cheating? Were you being too picky? Were you being ungrateful? Explore yourself and make an actual effort to solve those problems.
If the cause had been another girl, you've still got to look for the root problem. Were you being too ignorant and didn't care too much about his problems? When another girl take over your role to comfort him in his tough times, it's obvious that he will value her more than he sees you (despite the fact that you are his "acknowledged" girlfriend). You may not realize it, but you may be the one who drove him to her with your unsympathetic attitudes.
Needless to say, there is also chance that he's only a jerk who likes to hop to another girl's embrace whenever he's bored with his current girl. In cases like this, look for a better boyfriend. At the very least, you are worthy of that.
Contact him first
If you are determined that he is worth to fight for, attempt to initiate contact. Use any method that you can imagine: messages, e-mails, phone, or just "unexpectedly" bump into him at his favorite spot. When you do meet him, you priority isn't to beg him to take you back. Pleading and being needy are the one that kill the attraction fast, so never do that.
Your primary priority is to ensure that he is aware of your changes. You can enhance this changes impression by altering your appearance: different outfits, different hairstyle, etc. Nevertheless, the most crucial point is showing him that you already throw away your entire negative behaviors and have turned into a new better person.
Following the first meet up, make some real efforts to create opportunities for the next meet ups. Make him feels that special chemistry between both of you once again and make him see that you're way better than his current girl (if he has one). The whole process won't happen overnight; you have to devote some time and real efforts into it. In the end, you will have him back.
Here is what you need to do to get him back:
Do not use "jealousy" as a mean to get his attention
Several girls think that they are able to have another man to pretend to be their new boyfriend and make their ex boyfriend jealous. Well, this is a mistake. Even if he is jealous, his man's pride won't allow him to admit it. You may even get the complete opposite result: he gets a new girlfriend immediately to show you that he is okay without you as you are "fine" without him.
Give him time to rething his decision and assess his current circumstance
Guys always think more with logic than emotion. Let him look at the situation after the breakup by himself. Let him re-analyze his choice to breakup with you. Simply being without you for some time will give him a specific experience where he must decide something important: is it better now being without you? Or is it worse?
Identify the real issue and put an effort to resolve it
Having him back while the problem is still lurking won't be good for both of you. Should the issue is you, you need to discover it and try to fix it. What are the problems? Is it cheating? Were you being too picky? Were you being ungrateful? Explore yourself and make an actual effort to solve those problems.
If the cause had been another girl, you've still got to look for the root problem. Were you being too ignorant and didn't care too much about his problems? When another girl take over your role to comfort him in his tough times, it's obvious that he will value her more than he sees you (despite the fact that you are his "acknowledged" girlfriend). You may not realize it, but you may be the one who drove him to her with your unsympathetic attitudes.
Needless to say, there is also chance that he's only a jerk who likes to hop to another girl's embrace whenever he's bored with his current girl. In cases like this, look for a better boyfriend. At the very least, you are worthy of that.
Contact him first
If you are determined that he is worth to fight for, attempt to initiate contact. Use any method that you can imagine: messages, e-mails, phone, or just "unexpectedly" bump into him at his favorite spot. When you do meet him, you priority isn't to beg him to take you back. Pleading and being needy are the one that kill the attraction fast, so never do that.
Your primary priority is to ensure that he is aware of your changes. You can enhance this changes impression by altering your appearance: different outfits, different hairstyle, etc. Nevertheless, the most crucial point is showing him that you already throw away your entire negative behaviors and have turned into a new better person.
Following the first meet up, make some real efforts to create opportunities for the next meet ups. Make him feels that special chemistry between both of you once again and make him see that you're way better than his current girl (if he has one). The whole process won't happen overnight; you have to devote some time and real efforts into it. In the end, you will have him back.
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