They say that prevention is the best medicine, but oftentimes you don't notice the signs that your marriage is about to end before it is almost too late. But if you have seen the signs, then you need to take action now, or it you may be headed for divorce court. While you and your spouse may not be on the greatest terms at the moment, you have not split yet, which means there is still hope. As soon as you begin seeing signs that your marriage is over, you MUST do something to try to stem the tide of failure.
Do not simply accept that because you've been seeing the signs that your marriage is over that there is nothing you can do. Your marriage is NOT destined for failure at this point. The first thing you need to do is sit down with your spouse and discuss the problems you are aware of and how you could go about tackling them - together.
Too often, over time, couples lose the ability to communicate. The importance of open and honest communication can easily fall by the wayside with the never ending torrent of work, kids, chores, go to sleep, then do it again! Our spouses are the first people we seem to cut out of our lives when things get busy and stressful. We slowly stop talking to them as much, our love lives begin to dwindle, and you may even argue hotly on a regular basis. If you are dealing with these issues, you should be seeing them as signs that your marriage is over - while maybe not yet, it could be if the problems are left to fester.
You need to be on neutral ground to talk things over and begin to work through the issues that you and your spouse face. Trying going to a restaurant or other place that is meaningful in your relationship. This will make for a relaxed environment, where tensions can ease, and open, honest communication can truly take place.
If you take steps as soon as you begin seeing signs that your marriage is over, you can take steps to fix the problems before they become insurmountable. Rebuild the foundation of communication and things with your spouse will begin to improve rapidly.
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